Relationships are complicated no doubt about that. However, when it involves your ex hot companion, things can go from normal to crazy in a matter of moments! Breakups are not easy. Once you have committed to a person and have dreamt of a life together forever, it is hard to see all that shatter before your eyes and knowing that those dreams are never going to come true. However, it is even harder to stay away from the one who used to be the first person we thought of after waking up and the last person to come to our mind before going to sleep. And thus, we consider going back and trying once again, probably for the last time.
Is it a good idea to call your ex after breakup?
Considering this was a happy relationship as long as it lasted, and not an abusive one, the thought of calling our ex even after breakup often crosses our mind. It is especially true when that person used to be the one we would tell everything about. But, will that be a smart thing to do? Well, the answer lies with you and your intention to do it in the first place.
When your breakup was mutual and friendly
Not every breakup is as ugly as they can get. There are times when we are just incompatible with each other and there is pretty much nothing either of us can do about it. But, this does not mean that you have got to lose the friend in that person as well. Reaching out to your friend, who is now your ex, seems like a great way to help you cope with the emotional turbulence.
However, this is a tricky line and full of pitfalls. Remember why the two of you broke up and always ensure that you do not cross the boundary of friendship ever, not even for a moment. Moreover, if you two are going to stay that way, know that your future partners might not be too comfortable with the situation. Help each other to move on, but don’t hold on to each other.
If you are reaching out not with negative intent
It isn’t uncommon for us to feel a bit revengeful and make our ex feel what they lost. Chances are, the person already is doing that. If that’s your reason for calling, stop right there. Yes, the breakup can be messy, but let’s not make it messier. You two parted ways and it is time to let things go. Take your time to get over, talk to someone you can confide in, but don’t call unless you are truly concerned and wish to check how your ex is going. But, even then, keep it more of a courtesy call than an emotional exchange.
We lose people all through our lives. Not everyone is bad. It’s just that their story ends in our life. Learn to let go!
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